Happy 2013 Bellas

Pic taken by Moi at midnight

Happy New Years Bellas! I am blessed to see another year. I do not believe in making resolutions but I do believe in accomplishing all goals I set forth for the year! This past year was a hard one for me and very humbling to say the least. I jumped out the window and made some things happen and it turned out quite well for me. I encourage you to follow your dreams, support who supports you, Ignore negative people, and most importantly LOVE who loves you. I started to put my happiness first for a change and my life is changing dramatically. I wish you all much success, love, peace and sex lol.

Stay tuned new posts to come, events to cover, celebs to interview, products to buy/ try and love to spread.

Ciao Bellas,

Pana

www.LaBellaMorenita.com

Realist Shit I Ever Wrote

You were my Neo, short days endless nights.

My first in many ways, too smooth your own good

or should I say mine!

It was wrong from the start, something forbidden yet so necessary.

You came at the right time elevated me to

a higher level, but at the same time

did the most damage.

This heart will never heal,broken beyond repair.

Having half of you is like

being a crack

addict only allowed one hit off of the pipe.

You tried your best but,

your demons are too strong.

Your taste for addiction and lust kept us

apart.

The greatest friend I will ever have,

The greatest lover I never had

The girl is now

a woman

The man is still only half in some ways.

She roams the world alone

while

he has the world on his shoulders.

No one will ever understand

her pain or his.

Perfect match but timing is off. Timing will never be

right when You're not neo.

Days are now shorter priorities differ.

She yearns for depth, intensity, passion

and

someone to reciprocate the same consistency.

Wow consistency

No better yet most of all Stability.

She never had any

it's important

He wants his cake and it too,

unfortunately it is no longer an option.

A good man still,

but she isn't good enough.

She gave numerous chances, he accepted w/ no sign of change.

So she pulls out of the race.

Finally at peace with the past, just wanted a future.

She will never love another

ever !

The loyalty will always remain for the one

who got away,

and broke her heart

indefinitely.

The realest shit I ever wrote.

ReSpEcT,

Pana

Freeloaders * Everyone Knows One*

When I first started La Bella Morenita.com I made a decision to discuss real life topics that people go through everyday. I would like to think that I give you guys that ever so often. Now with that being said back to the topic at hand FREELOADERS ! Some people can agree agree that a favor done once in a while doesn't count as freeloading but when you take advantage of someone or people in your life your are a freeloader. If it isn't a even exchange or you are the primary beneficiary of said favor or goods this applies to you.  Here are a couple of examples why your are you freeloader :

• If you never contribute to a tab when out with friends or family (this means you are not intimate w/the friend) eating, drinking, shopping etc.
• If a bill comes and your food was $ 40 and you put exactly $40 w/o tax and tip
• If you are invited out and do not state that you are broke and expect others to cover your habits
• If you are invited to someones house for a game night, fight party, any type of gathering and you always come empty handed.
• If you borrow someones car and never put gas in it 
• If you are always known for this excuse "I only have my card"

The list goes on and on you get my drift. First off I do not care if you know a millionaire, or a hustler they work for their money either way so do not assume that it is always a free ride FOH ! That I do not have cash shit gets old as hell. I am about to start telling ninjas I accept all major credit cards and I have paypal, the look on the freeloaders face will be priceless. I do not expect a hand out from anyone not even my man. I have always carried my weight one way or another please believe that ! I find that this freeloading business is becoming significantly higher in men nowadays. It really is a shame that you want to hang out and be affiliated but do not want to contribute! This stems from your up bringing and your morals and principles. If that list applies to you grow up and stop being cheap or living above your means any of those options will do  ! 

Ciao,

Pana

Museum Of Sex

A lot of reading material

In case you wanna lick the wrapper

They have toys for sale

La Bella Morenitas

Ever since last spring I wanted to go to the Museum of Sex I had planned a La Bella's Night Out but due to the inclimate weather we weren't able to attend. Since the weather has been descent here in NYC I decided I would take a trip down to the museum and see what it is about. Well I surely wasn't surprised I got to see some interesting things and learn a few tricks lol.  They had a cafe downstairs where you can grab a bite and get your drink on. I was surprised to learn that a lot of animals have sex same intercourse (yikes) so I guess it isn't just humans God created us all so it must have been in his plan no judegement.

Network = Your Net Worth

Kevin Hart

Old Friend Pusha -T @his Play Clothes Event

Gloria so sweet very nice

 Recently I have been invited to different networking events some of them were actually networking events and the other half we just parties with people not networking at all lol. I have learned that some peoples idea of networking is partying and you end up leaving with the same contacts and information that you went to the event with. I hear this phrase "Your Network determines your Net Worth" As I am getting older I realize it is "Not what you know but who you know". In most cases that has been proven

Fuck-Less

Fuck A Hater ! Pisces Season 

Happy Valentines Day

Have a Great day and Enjoy !!


Ciao,

Pana

Lingerie Your Man Will Love

This one is my fave !

But I wear these the most

You can get sexy lingerie from the following places :

Fredericks of Hollywood 

Victoria's Secret

Glam Rose


Try it sometime and spice things up . I know your man will not complain if he does then you already :ox lol.


Ciao,


Pana

Stalkerdente's

I really do not know where to begin, So I will just dive right in. When did it become socially acceptable to stalk another person ? Or even bother, contact, and harass someone you do not even know or have never had a conversation with ?! I know everyone "claims" to have stalkers. To be honest out of 100 people saying they have stalkers maybe only 5 % of those people really have stalkers. I say this because dudes claim so many females are stalking them but if you are dealing with that female (sleeping w/them and pretending your in a relationship) then can that really be considered stalking ? Like seriously who doesn't check in on their dudes/females twitter page or facebook from time to time (no judgment but be real with yourself). Shit starts getting real when people want to take things off wax and start stalking you in real life lol. Calling and texting your phone saying things to hurt you. It's crazy how some people just wake up the their sole purpose and goal is to "try" to ruin the life of someone who they do not even know. I laugh at the fact that the stalkers actually get mad when you start to address them in a open platform (twitter etc). What I despise the most is the people that stalk, call, and text you from an anonymous source. Are you really that less busy and cowardly that you have to block your information especially when you want to cause a Ruckus ?! I take pity on you. There are males and females alike doing the stalking please believe it believe it please. No one is exempt from this. If you are going to harass someone keep it real, why should I trust information from someone who is hiding in the shadows? 


Here is some food for thought for you Stalkerdente's:

If I was ever going to call, text , or harass someone for what ever reason I would NEVER block my number I want you to know it is me and I want to take heed to exactly what I have to say.  Everyone isn't about that life are you ? because if you have to stalk then I guess not. Grow the fuck up little Padawan jajajaja. I'm Last of a dying breed.

Ciao,

Pana

Imposters

Buenos Dias ,

Today I am blogging via my blackberry I use this method because when I am on the go it is so much easier to post what is on my mind at that particular moment vs waiting until I get home. Anyway I see a lot of Blank Canvas' out here in the world. Some people try so hard to fit in , stunt, and put down others it is a crying shame. People find themselves bored, some even create separate lives via internet. You are your own advertisement my question is what are you selling?

Who are you trying to emulate ? Do you know who you are? I've always known who I was and who I'm not ! But I also realized that there were parts to me I didn't like and I wanted to make changes for the better. I AM a supportive friend and lover it has been very important for me to be supportive because that really shows Loyalty. I watch for that now I have different ways to determine one loyalty. But some people especially those who wear no face (Blank Canvas) kill me with their judgment, opinions, there I'm better than this attitude all while not evening showing who they are funny thing is you can't hide it for long.

If you don't know who you are that is fine but don't pretend to be something you're not. Take the time out to enjoy yourself find out what you like dislike etc... Surround yourself with people that have the same interests as yourself. Figure out your morals and principles.

Do not cheat yourself out of being the best person you can be. What face will you wear today?

Ciao,

Pana

Random

Saturday Love

He said I'm the Boss!!! When I call that will be my ringtone. My type of man lol.

Lust Issues

I was talking to a friend a week ago and they said to me that they had "Lust Issues" as we were having a conversation about relationship expectations. they expressed to me they were single because of these lust issues. At first I had to laugh, on the other hand I respected their honesty but then it made me think maybe that is the reason many of us are single. Even if you are not a participant of Lusting you could be the victim of your partners Lust Issues hence there reason for drama, end of relationship leading to your single hood.

I am not saying that I never lusted over an individual but I don't let physical attraction run my life maybe in my teens and early 20's I made certain descions based on physical appearance as far saying yes to a date, agreeing to a relationship that I know we had nothing in common and in the end I ended up bored and it didn't work because I wasn't sure what I was looking for because I was just looking for Mr. Right Now. As I've gotten older there has to be some type of lust I mean I want a strong physical connection but I want that as well as mental stimulation and emotionally stability. Now I would like to explore Lust further because I think we should view both sides of Lust to determine where we would rate ourselves on the lust factor.

Are You Loyal ? *Repost from 10/29/09*

Loy*al*ty –noun, plural -ties. 1. the state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations. 2. faithful adherence to a sovereign, government, leader, cause, etc. 3. an example or instance of faithfulness, adherence, or the like: a man with fierce loyalties. 


The first thing that comes to my mind when I hear loyalty is consistency, allegiance, faithfulness, fealty, affection, and devotion. These are very important traits to have. This is apart of my genetic makeup. As I am maturing and observing my daily surroundings I noticed that loyalty hardly exists from the street dudes to mobsters, from businessmen to the campaign trail loyalty is a rare commodity. In my travels I hear men and woman (mostly men) speak about how they want someone loyal especially in the relationship aspect of their lives. Then my question in my head is are you in turn loyal ? Do you know the true definition not what you have tailored to fit your requirements but the standard across the board meaning. For instance how can you expect some one you treat like shit do be loyal? How can you be upset if they abandon you or play for the next team? Sometimes you have to look at peoples mind set because after all everything is about perception.... let's dig deep I'll give you a scenario : Let's say you are in an 8 yr relationship or 2 year relationship (doesn't matter) . You have a couple that has a lot in common, same morals and principles, get along well (for the most part). On the outside it seems like the are a pretty descent almost perfect (perfect ...that's another blog in it's entirety) couple. But here are the facts. He spends almost zero time at home, cheats and with cheating comes lies, Plus he is commita-phobe, and isn't taking care of home in the tradition sense (that means not spending time or catering to the needs of the relationship he is in).

Trust Issues

I haven't written a relationship blog in over a year I haven't been inspired. As of late a lot has been boggling me. I have a list of topics I would like to discuss in the future so I am implementing a relationship blog once a week, with that being said leggo .

Trust is a serious requirement for any relationship (friends, family, intimate). It is a delicate balance between happiness/sorrow or teammate/enemy. These are my thoughts and questions because for the first time I don't have a complete hold or one set opinion on this matter. In most cases trust is easily attained. (some will say no but actually we believe or take peoples word for it until they show us otherwise) Now minor instances reveal to you why or why you shouldn't trust a person some are white lies no harm no foul (but you side eye, now once a side eye is issued they are on the watch list) some are damaging either they change your perception, deceive, or hurt you. Lol at the "watch list" but you know those people that you can't put your finger on you always got your eye on them because of a fuck up on their part! My question is how do you rebuild the trust ? Does the person causing the "Trust Issues" take full responsibility?  If a person continuously lies to you can they really be upset for you not trusting them and need reassurance ? What if they want to leave the past in the past w/o putting forth effort to gain your trust is this person worth your time ? Deception is a relationship killer but in my opinion trust can be rebuilt we are not perfect. What really bothers me is how people dismiss things and expect trust when it is that person that in fact doesn't want to regain and accept responsibility for their actions. Accepting responsibility is what I am coming to find a necessary component in my relationship factor it shows character. Anyway before I ramble on on as I tend to do I just wanted to know if you guys can give my some insight I always want to hear your thoughts a different points of view I leave you with this quote from one of my twitter followers @MrEego :

"Love itself is SIMPLE! We make it difficult with lies and inconsistency" 

                                                                              Ciao,

Pana

R E S P E C T

" Dudes treat the one the they loving with the same respect that they treat the one that humping that aint bout nothing, but you mad about it won't be that oh no it wont be that. I don't be at place that you comfy at with beeyach oh no you won't see that "

What it ain't no more to it ! Basic MORALS and PRINCIPLES #thatisall

How do you guys feel about this quote ? I want to hear your thoughts.

Ciao,

Pana

Can Conversation Be Sexy ?

I find this to be VERY true, I was having a conversation the other day with a male friend and he said people just don't converse anymore. I love a good conversation about anything mind blowing and interesting which we can agree to disagree etc etc. I believe you can learn a lot about people by just talking to them and listening to their views on different subjects. I find good conversation erotic and that is the best way to flirt with me. When a man has me mentally he has all of me. Even if I love my partner if he no longer holds me mentally I become distant (then it is the beginning to of the end). I believe your mentality controls your heart when your heart decides to listen. I always wondered when did you know that you actually fell in love with someone ? or did your mind (after all the happy moments) say yes I can see myself loving this person. The more you think about it the more it can become true (mind over matter). I will encourage more great conversation that is the way to get me to do whatever entice me , smile, laugh. All qualities I love when having good RESPECTFUL conversation. My advice if your dating a so called PRUDE (lol) then try some sexy conversation I promise you, you will get WHATEVER you like. Think about it take a second. #Ibeknowin

Btw Fab had it right you should worry when she don't ask or let things go to easy , but then again you guys won't notice that until she is gone because you are you "busy" doing you. Food for thought. Have a great and blessed Saturday.

Ciao,

Pana

In Style.... Safe Sex

I came across this and thought it was too cute. For you name brand junkies maybe this would be a GOOD reason for you to practice safe sex. Hey you are "doing it" Instyle how could he /she say no to that ? Please wrap up or if you are in a committed relationship please get tested often. I know I do! Marc Jacob condoms can only be purchased at Marc by Marc Jacob Stores and retail for only $ 1.50 each.

298 WEST 4TH STREET

Store Carries:

Marc by Marc Jacobs Mens Accessories

298 West 4th Street

New York, New York 10014

United States

Tel: (212) 929 0304Fax: (212) 929 9456

Store Hours: Mon - Sun 12-8pm

403-405 BLEECKER STREET

Store Carries:

Marc by Marc Jacobs Womens Ready-to-Wear, Accessories, Shoes

403-405 Bleecker Street

New York, New York 10014

United States

Tel: (212) 924 0026Fax: (212) 924 6002

Store Hours: Mon - Sun 12-8pm

Ciao Bellas,

Pana

Epiphany

 A little mystery can be more of a turn-on or attraction than putting it all out there or giving it away. This use of body language can go a long way toward satisfying your secret romantic intentions or leaving a good impression. Have faith, but don't become overly emotional or turn into an ice queen if things don't work out exactly as you expected. Never let 'em see you sweat, and don't make apologies for who you are just to feel valued by others."

Cold as Ice

So I have been thinking, how did some people get so COLD or pretend to be. Life has a funny way of throwing us curve balls, we go thru hurt and pain it is a part of life. What I am trying to figure out is when does this pain influence a change in our behavior and personality ? When people become immune to feeling anything or just gave up giving a f*** . They have no remorse for the pain they cause or subjected to.

Now don't get me wrong I can be overly sensitive sometimes, but it comes a point when some people are plain ole nasty , disrespectful, and cold. time and time again you put your heart on the line whether it be family, friends, and intimate and in most cases continually get shitted on either they are ungrateful , unappreciative or too materialistic to see what you do for them and where your loyalty lies or the fact that maybe you try to compensate in other area " When she need help I'm right over her shoulder, when off track ma is keeping me focused" I know money makes the world go round but I guess I'm old school just because he tricking don't mean he love you . Anyway back to the subject at hand I refuse to be cold even though I have been hurt , heart broken I do not believe in someone paying for another person's mistakes. Also I treat people the way I would like to be treated being a better person. I know first hand it is harder to live your life the RIGHT way than you do whatever and step on whomever to get buy. God always paves a way for me to to go farther, do better and have been blessed with good karma. Are we really a product of   our circumstances ?  In life are we so blinded by the superficial that we let lose sight of our morals and principles and just think about what we can "Get" out of situations. Everyone wants a ride or die and loyalty but if your "cold" how can you expect something that you aren't or unwilling to give?!!! We should re- examine our "relationships" establish what went wrong move past it or get over it. It is unhealthy to harbor negative energy it blocks our blessings (positive energy). With that being said your perceived deficiencies, anxieties or cravings may be what is excluding you. Remember that you have options. You are a survivor, able to deal with the flaws of your partner, yourself ,family, and the cold shoulder from those who see your values as unusual or suspect. Either may be putting a strain on your love life or lack there of. You can find strength in adversity, so don't be too quick to curse your lot everything happens for a reason. Be willing to face the unknown hardships for the sake of future improvements, growth and acceptance. Soon you will be in a place where you can express yourself fully and let go some of the pain resentment for past hurt. People are attracted to vibrancy let that inner glow shine thru. I know it is good to be detached on some levels but you will shine a lot brighter when your melting not frozen. Maybe some good can come of this without being frozen you wouldn't know how it feels to burn with desire.

What are your thoughts ?

Ciao, 

Pana