I read a very interesting article on another website, it was so insightful I decided to share my thoughts on this issue. Growing up I didn't want to learn how to cook, shit I barely wanted to clean my room. Every time it is drilled into young girls head "you have to learn this "what kind of man are you going to have if you don't" or my personal favorite line "you can not get a husband if you do not do this " My response each time is my husband will cook ,clean and wash my clothes (yea right :o/). I still soaked up all the information that my drill Sargent was feeding me. It wasn't until I reached about 18 then I was thankful for all lessons learned. I hate a man with a dirty house. Actually I want a man who is neater than me so I know for sure I won't have to clean up after him lol !!!!! I guess people take advangte and do not appreciate the good things they expect too much , so it makes it easier to explore all options because there are no more morals and principles. Some people pop the question just to shut you up (smh)Anyway in this article this man states that a man will never marry you, if you one already cater to him, and act like you are married for instance :
move in together before marriage "
have sex w/o protection
clean his apartment ,cooking "playing house"
Calling him hubby, him calling you wifey etc
wash his clothes
laying up w/each other for hours at a time
talking about forever but no commitment is in place
Putting things in each others names
Keys to apartment
*When you do these type of marital acts, you are giving a person the opportunity to use you up. They are getting the most out of you already so “why would they marry you?”.
He also stated that if your not married your single!!!!!!!. People do not owe you anything because your dating. You are single until he puts a ring on your finger only then you are in a committed relationship. Doing Martial Acts without being married.
I have to admit I'm guilty of this very same act smfh. I guess times have change I have been bread to do all these things. How do you show you are marriage material ??? I have a lot of questions, but you know what I agree I'm single I'm not married never been , never been close I guess the old saying is true why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. Very insightful.
Please check him out here his name is Life Skills and he is a relationship blogger.
Thank you Life Skills I needed this post.
Knowing is half the battle ,
Pana
